Jay Calderin

Reflections on the ideas behind fashion that place it at the center of my life’s work.

5 Fashionable Considerations Before Hitting The Reset Button

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Trust your Auntie Mame’s wisdom.

“Life’s a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!”

The promise of a new year should be filled with hope and eager anticipation of exciting things to come, but for some it can be exactly the opposite, especially when it comes to fashion, fitness and beauty. It’s a time of year when we hear louder than ever and from every corner, that who we are or what we’ve done so far is not enough. We allow ourselves to feel that we’re not pretty enough; young enough; thin enough; popular enough; and/or fashionable enough. We’re encouraged to be dissatisfied with ourselves and make big promises to transform ourselves into one ideal or another, no matter how unrealistic those aspirations might be. The fashion world resets itself at a fast and furious pace, but we don’t have to. We can put the breaks on and take some time to consider how and why we’re hitting the reset button.

1. Get in touch with your inner fashion bear. As the northeast moves into winter’s deep freeze, fashion takes a backseat to keeping dry and warm. This doesn’t mean that we can’t take advantage of this period of hibernation in the name of style. A brief blackout period in which you actively avoid being swept up in all things fashion, beauty and fitness, is a great way to recharge and return to these worlds with fresh eyes. At the risk of mixing metaphors, you’ll enter into a cave, but emerge from a cocoon.

2. Cut ‘em loose. It’s a great time to edit. Often there are items in your wardrobe or even a hairstyle that you’ve grown to rely on, but have somehow left you behind in terms of relevance to your current lifestyle. Although they feel safe, they may be slowing you down and it could be time to discard these crutches. A new year may provide the inspiration you need to let go of what is no longer serving you best, making room for the new, which will.

3. Sign up for self esteem. Enroll yourself in a wellness program of your own design. First, there’s no getting around the fact that we’ve all gotten a year older. Own it. Be empowered by the image you’ve created for yourself to date, and embrace the idea of investing the time and effort that will allow that identity to evolve with you. Body image is also a vital concern. Got curves? Celebrate them and stop trying to hide them. Our inner critics can really tear us down unless we use their tirades as reminder. At the first sign of self-imposed negativity, sit down and start to plan a series of exercises in extreme self-care. Big or small, at least one experience a month will help to ensure a healthier year, both physically and emotionally.

4. Turn up the volume. Express yourself through bold strokes of color. Selecting a signature color for the season is a fun way to make your own unique winter fashion statement. This is a very powerful thing to do throughout the bleak winter months. You can also throw some size into it. Sometimes bigger is definitely better, so don’t be afraid to wrap yourself up in over-scale coats, sweaters, and accessories.

5. Fly your freak flag! Open the door and let your wild side out. Experiment with style. Try on different fashion identities that you may have been secretly wishing you could adopt. The goal is not complete transformation. The idea revolves around a sense of play. Remember how much fun costumes and dress-up used to be as kids? The process can also be a great adventure – a time full of discovery. There are bound to be bits and pieces of those personas that stick with you, enhancing your look in a way that truly reflects who you are. I do caution readers however, to consider that not everyone can carry off a superhero cape.

As corny and cliché as it may be, I would encourage you to trust your Auntie Mame’s wisdom: “Life’s a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!” Apply this to all aspects of your life, fashion in particular. Serve up a little taste of everything on the menu and don’t be afraid to go back for seconds.


Written by jaycalderin

April 18, 2011 at 6:52 pm

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